Blog 5: My quest for spiritual covering
Furthering my search for spiritual covering
I knew from experience that people looked a bit strange at my style of work. I was a loner in the Evangelical world and ahead of many secular workers the late Seventies and early Eighties of last century. I had understood that it was the body that registered what had happened when a trauma had taken place. That there had to happen something physically, rather than just looking spiritually at these needs. Blessings, speaking to the body, talking to brain parts, caused interesting positive results. I didn’t find a Christian culture that was ready to talk about this with me.
A friend handed me a leaflet of International Correspondence Institute in Brussels. ICI is a USA originated Theological Institute that gave a BA that is recognized in the USA Universities. I looked at it and knew at once: this could be an answer for my hunger to know more about the Trauma field. It worked out and with a firm study commitment, I started in the early 80-ties. I could study and continue to work to support my family with growing children. Wil could continue with developing her painting gift. I have still warm feelings about this period in my life. The work blossomed, my studies gave me new insights. I was one of the first students who graduated from ICI. I wanted more and got some warm recommendations from Mission leaders to be allowed to enter the Masters Program in Fuller Cultural Studies Program in Pasadena, USA. They initiated an extension program and I did my exams under supervision in the Netherlands. The time-consuming studies started to make it harder and harder to keep my program going. Wil raised secretly the funds for me to go to the USA and finish my last courses there. It had broadened my view on the Church ministry in the world and got a much wider view theologically as well. It had kept me busy, but it still hadn’t answered my search for having an authority who would know the Trauma field and could spar with me about the application of theology and psychology. This made me at times too careful, holding back in sharing with clients what I thought.
My shyness also prevented me to write about it, being afraid of being put down as an heretic. I was battling between being brave and just talk about what I was doing and “just quietly doing my thing”. One major reason was my financial needs. If I got branded as a heretic in the evangelical world in the Netherlands
I feared I would be losing the trust of people who heard about me ‘by word of mouth’. As my work with people who had suffered serious trauma in their youth, trust is a rare element. It comes “by foot and runs away by horse”.
As I felt that I had done enough in Norway, I needed to look for other areas. The Lord provided me unexpectedly an opening.
The development of ministry in Austria
YWAM in Vienna asked me to teach on sexual abuse, as the first stories about sexual abuse started to hit the newspapers, especially as one Wiener-Government Orphanage, after WWII had been renting children out to pedophiles. I had met survivors of early childhood abuse in my ministry in the Netherlands. One of the leaders of the Roman Catholic Canaan Fellowship in Salzburg was present, and he invited me to come to Salzburg. This group was ecumenical open, yet holding to a Roman Catholic signature. My contact developed in such a way that a pastoral team grew who asked me four to five times per year to come to Salzburg to teach them some of my insights in pastoral care and to supervise them. I had developed in the Netherlands three seminars (using each five Saturdays) to teach interested people about my insight about Helping through Blessing. Looking at what has gone well in their lives, (what has God done?) rather than to be problem-oriented. To bless the body-parts really started to have visible effects.
God had taught me already in the late sixties/early seventies to start blessing the brain of people who had a traumatic experience. As I prayed they would relax and could more easily handle harsh memories.
As a missionary, I accepted much of the Theological differences with Roman Catholics as cultural expressions. I could live with that, as long as the Lordship of Jesus was central. At the end of one five-day seminar, a priest ended the meetings with a Mass. We talked a little bit before that, and he just asked what I thought about the changing of bread and wine into the “body, blood, soul and divinity of Jesus.” I shared how I had experienced that in Norway. His reply was: “O, then we believe the same.” He gave me a dress to put on and a role in the Mass. It made such a deep impression on me. I never forget how I received the Body of Christ and drank from the wine, being His blood.
I had been coming to Austria for nearly ten years, and I sensed it was time to move on again. There was a goodbye meeting with friends from all over Austria, who knew me through my seminars. Marlis Resch was a social worker, with a recognized supervisor’s training who had started to help me in the counseling of participants. She invited me to come to see the center where she worked, Emmaus: ‘a place for people on the border of society.’ Her boss suggested that they use my time to give a brief seminar on Helping through Blessing. The meeting place was packed, and some people asked right away if I couldn’t teach more. I shared that I needed to get the agreement of the Bishop. I talked to Bp Klaus Küng, and he told me that he was first a bishop in Vorarlberg but that the Pope had asked him to go to St.Pölten to help to sort out a situation in the priest-seminary, as they had found many unbecoming pictures on the computers that appeared to be pointing to child abuse. He was a gynecologist who became a priest, and he knew about the devastating effects of child abuse. He closed down the seminary and sent all the students back home. I told him about the request ‘to still have one more seminar in his diocese. That I only would do that if he agreed’. He said: “we don’t have people here who have the experience and gifts you have. I fully support your activities here”. Again (like I did in Norway when I was thrown into a conflict in YWAM), I went on my knees before him and said: “in that case, please bless me for this task.” This blessing gave me a new sense of “being under authority.” It also canceled my plans for leaving as the Church recognized authority opened doors to give many seminars in the Roman Catholic Church. The six-year that followed gave me time to get used to minister under the power with a Bishop who knew how to pray, and he was again under authority as well. It became a very satisfying opportunity. I could work as an evangelical pastor in this way in harmony with the R.C. Church. The hospitality of Bishop Küng made that I could start looking at R.C. Theology, without any danger of having to become R.C. myself.
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